Should I stay or should I go? [electronic resource] : a guide to knowing if your relationship can--and should--be saved / Lundy Bancroft and JAC Patrissi.Material type: TextAnalytics: Show analyticsPublication details: New York : Berkley Trade, 2011Edition: Berkley trade pbk. edDescription: 1 online resource (x, 417 p.)ISBN: 9781101470480 (electronic bk.); 1101470488 (electronic bk.); 9781101478820 (electronic bk.); 1101478829 (electronic bk.)Subject(s): Interpersonal relations | Couples -- Psychology | Man-woman relationships | Sex roleGenre/Form: Electronic books.Additional physical formats: Print version:: Should I stay or should I go?DDC classification: 646.7/8082 LOC classification: HM1106 | .B365 2011ebOnline resources: Click here to access title or place hold | Image
""Is this what all couples go through?" "Do I expect too much from a relationship?" "Can my partner really change?" "Are there steps I can take to get my relationship back on course?" "When is it time to move on?" You're getting hurt over and over again, so should you stay or should you go? Every relationship has problems, but you can't figure out if yours is beyond hope. How bad is too bad--and can your man really change? Now, in this warm, supportive, and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and women's advocate JAC Patrissi offer a way for you to practically and realistically take stock of your relationship and move forward. If you're involved in a chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationship, the advice and exercises in this book will help you learn to - Tell the difference between a healthy--yet difficult--relationship and one that is really not working - Recognize the signs that your man has serious problems - Stop waiting to see what will happen--and make your own growth the top priority - Design a clear plan of action for you and your partner - Navigate the waters of a relationship that's improving - Prepare for life without him, even as you keep trying to make life work with him"-- Provided by publisher.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Part I. Focusing on the root issues : Don't all relationships have problems? -- Is the problem immaturity? -- Is the problem addiction? -- Is the problem his mental health? -- Is the problem abuse or control? -- Am I the problem? -- Part II. Motivating for change: his and yours : What makes a man (finally) look at himself -- Getting yourself back to center? -- His first steps -- Setting "no-matter-what-happens" goals for yourself -- Part III. Entering the new phase : Men's work: what it's really all about -- Why your growth may bring more answers than his -- Are we really getting anywhere? -- The pros and cons of giving him time -- Part IV. Making the big decision : Why you may feel worse when he improves -- Rules for saving the savable relationship -- How to know when it's time to go -- Part V. Life beyond : Entering freedom after a destructive relationship -- Choosing a new partner -- Creating the relationship you want -- Growing a new heart.
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